ETHICS IN ARGUE

Bismillah walhamdulillah walaa Hawla walaa Quwwata Illaa billah, Sahabahs Islam Gentlemen, we thank Allah that to this day Allah is still playing for time for us. Talking about the verdict, in fact every one of us has been sentenced to death (S.21: 35), only execution schedule that is different, some weeks ago, yesterday, this morning, and I? You? Sometime, a clear time left, we must maximize to do good. Among the goodness that is: build a good synergy between the two lovers were tied tightly sacred promise, husband to wife.

A fight is a phenomenon that is difficult to avoid in the household life, if someone says: "I have never quarreled with my wife!" Chances two, maybe he's not a wife, or he is lying. Obviously I Umm Naila often enjoy sa'at-sa'at fight, as much to enjoy again sa'at sa'at not quarrel

The quarrel is actually a state of discussion, only delivered in a high degree of emotional charge. If you know the ethical, in bertengkarpun we can drink wisdom, how not, precisely in contention, any words were spoken containing cargo feeling very deep, sticking with pressure of high energy, the message the message was strong, more easily digested than lip service without emotion , Well, today I would like to describe our family recipes in a squabble continuous right, thank God I have lived for 13 years, and managed to build a state that is always more fun than before quarrel. This paper is purely non-political, so please do not hurry hurry Union Ranti remove

When me and the thief [my heart] - uh baseball koq he did not steal my heart, I even bartered ed with a sincere heart sincere-
Initial meeting, after I asked whether he was willing to share the future with me, and the answer is exactly as expected, we started talking about what the atmosphere of the household to the next. One of them is about what to do when we fight, from a few conversations via posts plus the time to maturity, we arrived on a Memorandum of Understanding, that if it had to fight it:

1. If a fight should not be in congregation
Just quite a grumpy, late sending high-pitched signal that one must wait until subsides. For business abstinence angry congregation, one is enough to make the house so festive. When he was angry, and I want to interrupt, he immediately said "STOP" it's my turn!
I had to keep quiet while forgiveness. Holding back a smile I said to myself: "You are more beautiful when angry, the more energetic ..." And with silence and even then I felt pious charity, has become a way for signals to pass through emotion in the hearts of loved ... "duh lover .. talk continues, if with the heart be relieved, then wilderness feel relief that I'm waiting .... "

Similarly, if fitted taxable my turn "that sport face muscles", I assume that the distortion of the heart, pus from the soul the offense is rubbish, it should be immediately disposed of so as not to spread germs, and I did not dare get mad at anyone who except my wife , so now it was her turn to be willing to be trash. special essence to be angry, it does not have to congregation, because there is something better to do it in congregation besides angry.

2. Get angry for that matter, do not leverage that has been folded past.
 Anyone that leveraged his past mistakes, definitely cornered, because the past is a part of history himself that he could not change. Whoever would not like judged by his past. Because hope unfolds from today to the future. In any fight we need to keep hope, not destroy it. Because contention among those who still have hope, just a foreplay, being quarrel two hearts pa tah desperation, destroyed the civilization of love which has been so costly to build. (to this day, the cost of marriage I still have to keep my installment, dear delete it if in just ...

If I get home late and he was angry, the anger over the delay was as hard as any criticism, is "an expression of longing that hard". But if it is linked with the rest of my delay, last week, the beginning of last month and two months ago, then it makes me slumped fall. When tea disajinya not sweet (I include sugar hoarders), any sepedas me angry, then it is "a higher expectation want to be loved". But if it is connected with the mistake yesterday and three-day passes, plus charges of "It's not like anymore yes to me", then I have pinned to the day that is gone, I buried him in the past, oops I had killed him, killed his love.
However, if the death of his love, I too hard ... OK, angry but for the error during the, I do not live in the last week, and he belongs today .....

3. If Angered do not carry the family!
 I was with my wife bound past 13 years, but my mother and my father almost two-fold longer than that, so he and his brother and uncle. And the concept of the Quran, one that does not bear the guilt of another party (S.53: 38-40). Terpantik I will not be angry if only I were scolded, but when my mother was invited as well, do not try. Likewise him, since I married her, I have learned to ignore anyone in this world than he is, so why should carry others kekancah "early this summer of love". My father said: 'Friends thousand still lacking, the enemy one too many ". Scold people who love me, more easily searchable ma'afnya of the cranky at heart and who does not know me .. "
The world is already on the verge of battle, do not plus added by hostile in-laws!

4. If you do not get angry in front of the kids!
 Our children are the fruit of love, not the fruit of anger and hatred. He was not born through our contention, therefore, why they should watch the wild comedy of our homes. Children who see their parents fight, confusion should side with whom. Defending father, how her mother. Defending the mother, but my father itukan ... when the boy heard his parents arguing:

Mother: "I have this cape, I clean the house, I cook, and you come play told so, I emang this babu? !!!"
Father: "I also cape, work all day, you ask for this and that and I had to look more to it, I came nobody should honor, I emang horse ???? !!!!

Children: "...... Yaaa ... my mother's maid, my father kept my horse .... What now?"

We must dare to say: "Stop bickering!" when the kids come, see their eyes, in binarannya there longing and togetherness. At laugh no trace of our cooperation romantic, should he hear the word stale our hearts ???

5. If you do not get angry over a time of prayer!
At each tahiyyat we say: "Assalaa-mu 'alaynaa wa' alaa 'ibaadil- ahis holiihiin" Ya Allah, peace be upon us, as well as on your servants who are pious .... Well if after greeting us pout again, after greeting us our wives face with anger. Then we have been lying to him, but your life in his hands ...... Ok, angry as much at dusk, but after maghrib should prove to know that the promise of the divine ..... Get angry discharged dawn, but do not overdue midday, or limited Maghrib Isha ... Or run out isya limited to .... ??? Nnnng .. Ah I think we agree that depleted isya should indeed not fight .....

6. If we love each other, we should be mutually mema'afkan
{wisdom that I can later, when read in the newspapers resensinya Demi Moore movie [title I forget ....]} But clearly it is, as long as there is love, a fight is just "learning to love more intense" Apparently there are still loyal with us even though we maki maki. This alone, may bermanfa'at, "With the creed greeting that means we declare ourselves to be willing to be limited"

Four Muslim characteristics of Ignorance

One of the consequences a person becomes a Muslim is abandoning any form of values ​​that are not Islamic or jahili. Therefore, every believer is required to enter into Islam kaffah or thorough. Allah says which means: "O you who believe, you go into Islam as a whole, and do you share the steps of Satan. Verily Satan is an outright enemy to you" (Sura 2: 208).
The verse down to the cause; there is a group of Jewish friends who originally requested the Prophet in order to be allowed to celebrate or glorify Saturday and run the Torah. Then came down this verse that does not allow a person who has been admitted to the faithful but still behave as his behavior at the time of ignorance.
Nevertheless, there are still plenty of people who claim to have faith but do not abandon old habits of ignorance so that her personality is still mixed with ignorance personality, so people like that deserve what we call the Muslim jahili. Of the many sign, the Prophet said in a hadith: "Four cases in case of ignorance of my people that they do not leave, namely: boast degrees descent, denounced descent, rainmaking with animals and maratapi corpse" (HR. Muslim).
From the above hadith, we can conclude that of the many signs, there are four Muslim sign of ignorance mentioned by the Prophet. This indeed should we understand well that it is not a model of ignorance of life we ​​live. Companion Umar once said: 'If you want to avoid ignorance, ignorance recognize it'.
1. Boasts descendants.
Glory and devotion a person is not measured by descent within the meaning automatically. Therefore, if we want to boast or to glorify a person, not because of heredity, but by faith and charity shalehnya achievement. But what we are witnessing is precisely the opposite. Not a few people were chosen to be the leader automatically because the offspring. If the father of the king, then the child will automatically become king even though the child may not be able to become king, in fact there are others more worthy to be king. That in countries that use the royal system.
In addition, the proud descendants are also in the form of not punishing people gentility or the "blue blood" if they make mistakes, even mistakes that tend to be covered up, as if ordinary people make a mistake, the penalty against him much heavier than wrong he had done. When friends asked about this, the Prophet affirmed: If my daughter, Fatimah steals, will I cut off his hand.
2. Denouncing descendants.
Because the glory someone should we measure the ketaqwaannya to Allah, then a Muslim is not justified in criticizing others with cause descent, for example, if the father or mother is not good, then we assume children are also not good, then we are reproached, and so it went on. Indeed, sometimes when the parents are not good, his son also becomes not good, but we can not assume everything like that.
At the time of ignorance, denounced the descent was common, and often hostility person with another person would be hereditary to their grandchildren. Islam really does not justify the treatment criticizing others, especially just because of heredity, because it could be the condemned is actually better than that denounced. Allah says which means: O ye who believe, do not be a people mocked the others (because) maybe they (the mock-mock) was better than them (who derided) and do not also women (mocked) other women it may be that women (who mock-mock) better than the women (who derided) and do not reproach yourselves and do not call the call with titles that bad , The worst of the call is (call) that bad after faith, and whoever does not repent, then they are the wrong-doers (Sura 49:11).
3. Requests the rain with the Beast.
Sufficient rain is the desire of human life in this world, because then, in addition to the fulfillment of the needs of the water that is very important for humans, can also be the fulfillment of water for agriculture and livestock and the environment will feel more comfortable.
When there kemara long, it will result in more warming of the air temperature and the depletion of water supplies for humans, animals and plants. Therefore, Islam teaches us to ask for rain to Allah by praying istisqa.
But in our society, there is a culture that is precisely contrary to the teachings of Islam itself in terms of asking for rain, which is asking for rain through animals, for example by watering the cat with water and so on. Such actions not only interfere with the animals, but can also undermine the confidence that is clean, something that must always be maintained by every Muslim that belief incompatible with polytheism. Therefore, there is a Muslim apalabila rainmaking through animals, then the conviction and temperament that means there is ignorance.
 4. Lamenting corpse.
Die is a matter of course. Every one of us will reach death, sooner or later. When there are members of our families, the people we love or public figure who became penutan us in goodness dies, grief over the death of them is something that might happen. Even Umar bin Khattab when rumored that the Prophet died, he was not believed, therefore with a sword in hand, he stated that if anyone declares that the Prophet had died would I slash neck. Facing it, then sabahat Abu Bakr, Umar bin Khattab Shidik calming and asserts that the prophet was dead.
Saddened by the death of a person was okay, but sadness excessive to wail with banging body, head, face, hair pulling and say the words that describe the absence of a sense of confidence or trust in Allah is something that can not be justified , therefore, dala, books of hadith Riyadush Shalihin, Prophet regard such people as those who are not his people, he said, which means: "Not from golonganku people banging cheek, tearing pocket and screaming with the voice of ignorance" (HR . Bukhari and Muslim).
Lamenting the bodies occurred because someone does not accept the death of a diratapinya that, consequently because his death could not be rejected again, then he too is treated like a living person, for example by building a tomb although it should be at great cost, to pray to ask for help to those who are already dead, suppose that he is still alive until dared not leave a will-the will is not right though, even there are graves that were given mosquito nets and provided drinking water on it. This all is something that can not be justified in Islam. Therefore, when there are the Muslims doing that, he means still practice-paktek ignorance which is not justified.
Thus, we must realize that, as Muslims, we should stay away and leave all life practices that are not in line with Islamic values. If that still we do, it could be our Islamic faith and only limited recognition is not necessarily recognized by Allah and His Messenger

lying

Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala lie has made Muslims net in trust, all the words and deeds and words. Honesty is the barometer of a nation's happiness. Nothing his key to happiness and peace haqiqi but being honest either vertically or horizontally.
"And do not follow what you do not have knowledge of it." (Qur'an, Al-Isra: 36).
"Truly honest it shows goodness, while goodness leads to Paradise. It was undoubtedly an honest person who familiarize note on the side of God as an honest man. And indeed lie was pointed out to misguidance, while evils that plunged into hell. Indeed those who lie will always be recorded as a liar "(Bukhari Muslim). Lying is forbidden act, as a danger to others, but in certain circumstances be permissible even changed the law required. The scholars define the legal division lies in accordance with the five categories of law syar'i, although basically lied law is unlawful. The division is as follows:
1. Haram, which lie useless according syar'i glasses.
2. Makruh, which lies used to repair domestic brawl, and the like.
3. Sunnah, which is like a lie in which to frighten the enemies of Islam in a war, such as excessive reporting tntang number of troops and equipment in order kuslimin the enemy tremble.
4. Mandatory, that such lies are being made to save the life of a Muslim or property from the death or destruction.
5. permissible for example that is used to reconcile the disputes in the community.
But some scholars argue that all forms of lying is bad and should be shunned, because not a few verses of the Qur'an that reproach. The factors driving the lie is:
1. Slight fear of God.
2. The business distort the facts with various motifs.
3. looking for attention.
4. The absence of a sense of responsibility and trying to run away from the reality of life.
5. habit of lying since childhood.
6. proud with his lies.

SINS OF

"If you avoid major sins among the sins forbidden you do, We will Delete your mistakes (sins are small) and We Enter thou into glorious place (Paradise)." (Qur'an, An-Nisa ' 4:31)
"And only Allah belongs what is in the heavens and whatsoever is in the earth so that He rewards those who do evil for what they have done, and reward those who do good to reward better (Heaven). (Namely) those who avoid major sins and indecency that apart from small errors. Her verily thy Lord Maha Area of ​​His Forgiveness. And He is Knowing (about the state) to you when He Makes you from the earth and when you were a fetus in your mother's nakedness; so do not say you are holy. He is most Knowing of the righteous. "(Qur'an, An-Najm 53: 31-32)
1.a. BEWARE OF SINS
"And they said," We're never going to be touched by the fire of hell except for a few days, "words a sense," Have you received a promise from God so that God will not deny His appointment or did you just say to God what you do not know? "(Not so), which is true, whoever sinned and he has been overwhelmed by sin, they are the dwellers of the Fire, to dwell therein." (Qur'an, Al-Baqarah 2: 80-81)
"And leave the sin-looking and are tersembu-nyi. Indeed, those who do sin, later will be recompensed (on the day), because of what they have done. "(Qur'an, Al-An'am 6: 120)



1.b. CAUSE mired INTO MAN OF SIN
According to Imam Al-Ghazali, there are four basic causes of human terperosoknya into sin:
1. The torment threatened for the sinner is considered an occult deemed never going to happen
2. Lust that evokes the sin, pleasure now
3. Usually actors seek to repent of sin and always tried to cover it with good deeds without seeking to stop sin.
4. Humans generally believes bahwasannya sin is not something impossible forgiven God.
1.c. SINS OF
Prophet. when the companions asked: "Sin is what, O Messenger of Allah?" He replied, "Sin is something terbentik in your heart and you do not like people to know."
1. Shirk (associating partners with Allah)
"Verily Allah will not forgive the sin of shirk, and He forgives all sins apart from (shirk), for whom He wills. Whoever memperseku-Tukan Allah, then indeed he has a great sin. "(Qur'an, An-Nisa '4:48)
2. ungodly in both parents
Said the Prophet .: sins big it: Memperse-curse God, and insubordinate to both the mother and the father to kill the soul (person) with no rights and perjury (HR. Bukhari)
3. Decide friendship
"No one will enter heaven who decide family relationship." (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
"Do not hate-hate and do not hasud (envy) mengha-sud and do not rear-backs and do not give-off. Be ye servants of God brothers, not allowed a Muslim boycott of fellow Muslims for more than three days. "(HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
"The doors of heaven open on Monday and Thursday, then forgiven everyone who do not associate God with anything whatsoever, except those which are still in dispute with his brother, then say: Look forward to the one of two guys that make peace." (HR. Muslim )
4. Deceptive
"Who took up arms at us, instead of my ummah, and who cheats us is not from our group." (HR. Muslim)

5. Hurting people
Said the Prophet .: Who was ever do injustice to his brother, either an entity or property or honor others, should immediately ask for lawful (ma'af) it now also comes a day before the incomparable treasure dinar or dirham, if he has a pious charity, it will be taken under persecution, and if it does not have hasanat (goodness), then taken from those who are persecuted for the crime were passed to him. (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
6. Looking around disgrace people or tell
"O ye who believe, avoid most of suspicion, actually some prejudice is a sin and do not find fault with others and do not some of you backbiting others. Sukakah one among you eat the flesh of his brother dead? Then you feel disgusted him. And fear Allah. Verily Allah oft-Returning, Most Merciful. "(Qur'an, Al Hujurat 49:12)
7. Denying promise / lie
"Woe to every person that many more lie many a sinner." (Qur'an, Al-Jatsiyah 45: 7)
8. Leaving the obligatory prayer
"They came after them, substitute (ugly) who squandered prayer and indulge his lust; then they will probably have error. "(Qur'an, Maryam 19:59)
So woe to those who pray, (that) those who are neglectful of their prayers, those who do riya, and reluctant (help with) useful stuff. "(Al Maa'uun 107: 4-7)
9. Boros or stingy
"And give to families who close their rights, to the poor and are on the way; and do not squander (your wealth) in wantonness. Indeed it is a spendthrift-spendthrift brothers Satan and Satan is very dissenter to his Lord. "(Qur'an, Al-Isra '17: 26-27)
"And let not those hunks of the treasures that God Give them of His gift of thought, that it was good for their stinginess. Sebe-narnya stinginess that is bad for them. Bakhilkan treasure they would be worn around the neck later on the Day of Resurrection. And Allah belong all legacy (existing) in the heavens and on earth. And Allah is Aware of what you do. "(Qur'an, Al 'Imran 3: 180)
10. Betraying trust
"And you janganlag pounding (to defend) those who betrayed him. Indeed, Allah does Liking people who always betrayed again wallowing in sin. "(Qur'an, An-Nisa '4: 107)
11. Riya
Prophet. said: Allah has said: I am the richest of all the allies, for was united, then who do good an act that was united to the other, then I leave it to the allies. (HR. Muslim)
12. Drinking wine and Gambling
"They ask thee concerning wine and gambling. Say: "In them is great sin, and some profit, for men, but the sin is greater than the benefit." And they ask thee what they shall spend. Say, "The more of these purposes." Thus Allah Explains His verses to you lest you think about the world and the Hereafter. "(QS. Al-Baqarah 2: 219-220)
13. Eating / drinking is forbidden
"It has been forbidden to you dead meat, blood, the flesh of swine, slaughtered animals were not for God, the (dead) due to strangulation, the (dead) because of being hit, the (dead) due to a fall from the top, the (dead) for headlong, which (die) because eaten by wild animals but can you slaughter and are slaughtered for idols. "(al-Maidah: 3)
14. Do not fast during Ramadan, though without a hitch
15. Male resemble female or vice versa
Prophet. mela'nat men who imitate women and women who imitate men. (HR. Bukhari)
16. Believe in magic, sorcery and the like
"Leave the seven sins are destroyed. Companions asked: What is the Messenger of Allah? The Prophet said: Shirk (associating) of God. And witchcraft (sorcery). And kill the human spirit that is forbidden by Allah except by right. And usury. And eat the orphan's property. And fled in time of war jihad fisabilillah. And accused mu'minat polite woman with adultery. "(HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
"Who came to the fortune-teller and ask for something and then believed, then the prayer is not accepted for forty days." (HR. Muslim)


17. Persecution in animals
Prophet. said: A woman was tortured for a cat that has been dikurungnya to death, then he goes into Hell, because when he does not confine it feeds and is not released to feed themselves from the beasts of the earth which becomes food. (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
18. Steal
"O Prophet, when women come to the faithful to hold allegiance, that they will not associate anything with Allah, not to steal, not commit adultery, do not kill their children, will not be lied that they ada- forged between their hands and feet and will not disobey thee in the affairs of the good, then accept their allegiance to God and beseech forgiveness for them. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. "(Qur'an, Al-Mumtahanah 60:12)
19. Envy and resentment
"And among them (those who envy it), there are those who believe in him, and among them there are those who mengalangi (humans) believe in him. And enough (for them) Hell flaming apinnya. "(Qur'an, An-Nisa '4:55)
20. Mocks
"O people who believe! Let not a people mocked the others (because) maybe they (the mock-mock) better than them (who derided) and do not also women (mocked) woman- Another woman (because) may be women (who mocked) better than women (who derided) and do not reproach yourself, and do not call-calling with bad titles. The worst of the call is (call) after bad faith, and whoever does not repent, then they are the wrong-doers. "(QS. Al Hujurat 49:11)
21. Insulting
"Woe to every slanderer more detractors, who collect treasures and counting, and thinks that his wealth may mengekalkannya, never! Indeed he really would be thrown into which breaks to pieces. And do you know what that which breaks to pieces? (It is) the fire (supplied) Allah kindled, which is (up) to the liver. It shall be sealed upon them, (that they are) tied to long poles (al-Humazah 104: 1- 9)
22. coarse-mouthed
"God does not Liking bad speech, (spoken) frankly except by those who are persecuted. Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing. "(Qur'an, An-Nisa '4: 148)
Speech bad as denouncing people, cursing, explain trigger-kan-vices of others, offend someone, please.
"And do not follow everyone who many swear again abject, which many denounced, the fro burst slander, which is very reluctant to do good, who transgresses many sins, rigid rough, aside from that, famous crimes." ( QS. Al Qalam 68: 10-13)
23. Throw away the water the small / big in places impassable
Prophet. said: Watch out you from two places curse people. Asked: What are the two places that condemned it? Replied the Prophet .: People defecate in the street or shelter (shelter) them. "(HR. Muslim)
24. Sitting on top of the grave
"If a sitting on hot coals to burn clothing and penetrate into the body, then that is better for him than sitting on the grave." (HR. Muslim)
25. Walking in front of people praying
"If people walking in front of the praying people know how big his sin, surely if he stood forty better than to walk in front of people praying." (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
Who narrated this hadith says: I do not know whether the forty days or months or years.
26. Eat / drink of equipment made of gold / silver
"Do you wear silk subtle or bold, and do not drink in the container gold and silver, and do not eat at the pitcher." (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
Hudzaifah r.a. said: The Prophet. has forbidden us to wear thin and thick silk, and drink in the container gold and silver, saying: That's all for them infidels in the world and for you in the hereafter. (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
27. Persecuting orphans or poor
"Do you (people) who deny religion? That person who rebuked the orphan, and not the feeding of the poor. (Al Maa'uun 107: 1-3)
"Indeed, those who ate the orphan's property with their cruel only takes fire in the belly, and they will go to hell sya'ir." (Qur'an, An-Nisa '4:10)
Said the Prophet .: Leave the seven sins which would destroy. Companions asked: Is that a yes Rasulul-lah? The Prophet replied: Shirk. And magic. And the killing of innocent lives, but with the right. And usury. And eat the orphan's property. And fled in time of war jihad. And accused mu'minat polite woman on charges of adultery. (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
1.d. ERASERS-SIN
1. God forgives sin by repentance
"Whoever is doing evil and persecuting him, then he ask forgiveness of Allah, surely he finds Allah is Forgiving, Merciful." (Qur'an, An-Nisa '4: 110)
Taubat accompanied by efforts to improve yourself:
"Then, indeed your Lord (Forgiving) for people who do mistakes because kebo-dohannya, then they repent thereafter and mem-fix (himself), verily your Lord after that really is Forgiving, Merciful. "(QS. An-Nahl 16: 119)
Repentance acceptable to God:
"Surely repentance in God's side merely repentance for those who do evil because of ignorance, then they repented immediately, then they are the God who accepted his repentance; and Allah is Knower, Wise "(Qur'an, An-Nisa '4:17)
Do not despair of the mercy of God:
"Say," O My servants who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the mercy of God. Verily Allah forgive all sins. Verily He is the All-Observers also Merciful. "(Qur'an, Az Zumar 39:53)
2. Good deeds can take away sins
"... Indeed, good deeds wipe it clicking (sin) bad deeds. That is a warning for people who remember. "(QS. Hud 11: 114)
Susullah an act maksiyat with obedient deeds that can keep up that sin maksiyat was covered by the reward obedient.

3. Faith in Allah and His Messenger and strive in the Way of Allah with their wealth and soul
O ye who believe, sukakah I show you a commerce that can save you from a painful punishment? (that) you believe in Allah and His Messenger and strive in the way of Allah with their wealth and soul. That is better for you if you know. He will forgive you your sins and admit you into heaven that flowed beneath rivers, and (insert your) place to stay either in heaven 'And. That's great luck. (Ash Shaff 61: 10-12)
4. Prayer five times a day is kiffarah
Prophet. said, "If there is a river in front of the house of one of you and he bathed in it five times a day, do you think there will still be dirt left in his body?" They said, "There will be no trace of dirt left in his body." Prophet Muhammad SAW. adding, "This is like (underst-jakan) the five daily prayers deeds remove the evil (sin)." (HR. Bukhari)
5. Jihad fi sabilillah and martyrdom
When the Prophet. stand berkhutbah said: fisabilillah jihad is really about faith and trust in God, seutama prime deeds. Then one asks: What if I killed fisabilillah, would be redeemed my sins? The Prophet replied: Yes. If you are killed fisabilillah are you looking forward sincerely forward not backward. Then the Prophet asked: How keteranganmu that? Said the man: What if I killed fisabilillah, can the redeemed of all my sins? The Prophet replied: Yes. If you wait sincere forward and not backward, except debt. Because Gabriel said so to me. (HR. Muslim)
Maraji '
Al-Quran Al-Karim
Imam Nawawy, Tarjamah Riyadhus Shalihin

Dutiful To Parents

1.a. ATTENTION PARENTS RIGHTS OF GOD
Worship Allah and do not associate him with anything. And do good to both the mother's father, a close relatives, orphans, the poor, neighbors close and far neighbors, peers, ibnus sabil, and a slave sahayamu. Surely Allah loves not the arrogant and boast themselves. (an Nisaa 4:36)
And your Lord has Ordered that you will not worship except Him, and let the mother do well with the best father. If one of the two or both until the age further in pemeliharaanmu, then occasionally do you say to both the word "ah" and do not yell at them and say to them a noble word. (Al Israa 17:23)
1.b. FADHAIL devote to MOTHER FATHER:
 Dedicated to the mother-father, including the preferred action
Abdullah bin Mas'ud ra. said: I asked the Messenger of Allah .: Is the ultimate act of charity? Prophet: Devoted to both the mother's father. I ask, then much less? He replied: Jihad (fighting in the way of Allah) (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
 Dedicated to the mother-father, a great sin
Ibn Umar said: There was a man came to the Prophet Muhammad and said: "I have committed a great sin, is it possible that sin be forgiven?" The Messenger asked: "Are the two mother-father still alive?" The man with the sad answer "The two had died". He asked again: "Do you have your mother?" "Yes, it has," replied the man. Then returned the Prophet said: "Baktikanlah yourself to him". (HR. At Turmudzi, Ibn Hibbaan and Al-Hakim)
 Extendable age and bestowed sustenance
"Who wants to lengthen his age and fortune bestowed, he should devote to the mother-father and nurture the relationship". (HR. Ahmad)
 the pleasure of Allah in the pleasure of the mother-father
"Who made the mother-father fun and pleasure, then he has to make God happy and a pleasure to him. And whoever angered his parents, then it means he has made the wrath of God. "(HR. Ibn Najjar)
 efficacious prayer servant because of his devotion to the mother-father
1.c. THINGS TO RAISE CHILDREN BAKTI
Contemplate how great the sacrifice of a mother to her child.
"And we wasiatkan to humans in order to do good to both the mother-father. His mother had mengan-dungnya in difficult circumstances which increase steadily and give birth with difficulty, too. "(Qur'an, Al-Ahqaf 46:15)
"And we wasiatkan to humans in order to do good to the mother-father. His mother conceived him in a weakened state that increase steadily ". (QS. Luqman 31:14)
1.d. FORMS BIRRUL WALIDAIN
• Looking at parents with a view of love, loving and happy
"A child who looked to her parents with a view of love, will be recorded deeds of God as one who Hajj Mabrur" (HR Ar-Rafi'i and Al-Bayhaqi)
• Be gentle
"And recite the words of the noble father mother and humble yourselves against them with compassion and pray:" O my Robb, have mercy on both of them as both of them have educated me in little time. "(Qur'an, Al-Isra, 17: 23- 24)
Imam Al-Bukhari describes the word of God above. He said: "Be subject to the mother-father as a servant to his master hard and vicious."
"Do not you walk in front of him, do not sit before he sat down, do not you call by name, and do not you provoke anger." (HR. At-Thabarni)
• Ask permission before entering his room
"And if your children have reached the age of puberty, they must ask permission to you (to enter), as did those before them." (QS. An Nur 24:59)
• Standing greet the mother-father
"Siti Fatimah bint Apostle when he comes to visit the Prophet he rose to meet him, kiss and let the princess sat in his seat. Likewise, if the Prophet came to visit her baby, Fatimah woke up to meet him, kiss and let sit in her seat. "(HR. Abu Dawud and At-Turmudhi)
It is a form of adoration, humility and obedience to both or appearance of affection to both.
• Praying for mother-father (17: 23-24)
How good that you pray for the parents of each finished reading the shahada in prayer.
"Be grateful to Me and to your parents, only to receive from me everything will be back." (QS. Luqman 31:14)
"It's a slave abandoned by one or by both the mother-father, while he was in a state of lawlessness. But the children always pray and scrap-honkan forgiveness for them, so that God set her as a dutiful son to his parents. "(HR. Al-Bayhaqi)
• Pilgrimage to the tomb of the mother-father
"Those who make a pilgrimage to the tomb of his parents or one of the two on each Friday, then his sins will be forgiven by God and it is expressed as a dutiful son to his parents." (HR. At-Thabrani)
• Fostering good relations with fellow mother-father
Prophet. said, "Who would want to be associated with his father who had died, let him menghubu-NGI acquaintances and relatives of his father, after his father died." (HR. Abdur Razzaq)
Messenger of Allah said: "Verily, the most important filial piety is the relationship of the child with a good friend of his father's family." (HR. Muslim)
• Pay off debts both after both died
• Making good on his vow
A man from Bani Salamah asked, "O Messenger of Allah, whether the mother after my father died, there was still some service can I offer to both of them ...? Prophet. nodded and said: "Yes, by the way send a prayer for them, ask forgiveness, keep their promises and who never professed nadzar mother-father, maintaining relationships pal relationship and glorify them." (HR. Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah and Ibn Hibbaan)
• Do not cause the cursing to both
That the Prophet. He said: Instead of major sins is the one who cursed the father-mother. Companions asked: O Messenger of Allah is there any one who cursed father-mother? The Prophet replied: Yes. He cursing father of others, then returned swore at him cursing his father or mother found another man and swore on his mother's reply (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
1.e. Modeling
• Bakti Prophet Ismail to Sayyidina Ibrahim
1.F. UQUQUL WALIDAIN
• disobedience to the mother-father including big sin
"One of the greatest sins kabir sight of Allah on the Day of Judgment is: associating partners with Allah, killing a believer is not according to the Shari'ah, to escape from the battlefield jihad fi sabilillah at the time of the raid, mendur-HAKAI keduaorangtua, accuse chaste women commit indecency, learn magic, eating money usury and eating treasure orphans. "(HR. Ibn Hibbaan)
• Forms uququl Walidain
: disobedient
 ignore
 hurt
 words are not pleasant
 underestimate
 looked with contempt view
 make sad
"Tears parents because children including iniquity." (HR. Al-Bukhari)
 eyes wide to both
"A child who widened his eyes to both parents, including children who do not worship." (HR. Al Bayhaqi and Ibn Mardawih)
 avoid both
"There is a class of servants were not consulted by Allah on the resurrection day, not seen, not cleaned nor purified". The Companions asked, "Who are they, O Messenger of Allah?" Answered by the Prophet, "That person away-right away from the mother-father and those who have an abundance of virtues of a people and he disown their virtues instead he distanced himself from them." (HR. Ahmad)
 not happy to the mother-father
"Three kinds of people who condemned Allah is, behavior-behavior that is not happy to both the mother-father, the man who tried to divide the life of husband and wife after the woman he marry and men who like peppering of words between the believers that they hate hate each other. "(HR. Ad Dailami)
 hit
"Seven classes of people that will not be seen by Allah on the Day of Judgment, not cleaned and not mixed with natural inhabitants of other, they are put into the fire first, unless they repent, God Berke-nan forgive them, those who marry with hands his (masturbation) that do and done, alcoholic, who beat the mother-father to both of them for help and those who commit adultery with his neighbor's wife "(HR. Al-Bayhaqi)
 disobey the mother-father friend
"Keep beloved father, do not you decide, do not let God extinguish your light." (HR. Al-Bukhari)
• Charitable deeds rebellious child will not be accepted
"Three groups of people who are not accepted his deeds, are: people who ascribed partners to Allah, the child who disobeys her parents and mujahid who fled from the battlefield." (HR. At-Thabarani)
• Haram disobedient to parents though unjust to him
"A Muslim who has both parents are Muslim, then he always applies charity towards them, then God was pleased to open the two doors of heaven for her. If he has a course, then he will get one door, if he exasperate his parents, then God will not bless him. Someone asked, "Although both menzaliminya?". The Prophet replied, "Yes, although both menzaliminya." (HR. Al-Bukhari)
Maraji '
Ahmad Isa Assyria, Birrul Waidail (Dedicated to Mother Father),
Sa'id Hawwa, Al Islam: System Morals
Imam Abu Zakaria Yahya bin Neural Annawawy, Tarjamah Riadhus Shalihin

Brothers and Mutual Advises

The fire of war in the valley of Badr had been extinguished. The war ended with the victory of the Deen Haq (the true religion) on Dienul Kufr. A total of 14 Mujahideen martyred Muslims; 6 of the immigrants, the rest 8 of the Ansar. On the other hand, as many as 70 soldiers captive Mecca idolaters, and 70 others were killed. Most of them are leaders and magnifying Makkah.
Before Islam came, the Arab community living in the system 'asabiyya fanatic qabilah (tribe) and descent. Their relationship to the tribe and descendants are alive and dead relationship. "Bela brother right or wrong", that is their motto which translated literally. Life and death they dedicated to maintain the honor and the survival rate and descent. (Shaykh al-Mubarakfury Shafiyyurrahman, Ar-Rahiqul Makhtum, p. 45)
And in the battle of Badr this (Ramadan 2 H), the first war in the history of Islam, it is precisely those people Emigrants Makkah in particular fighting against brothers, descendants and tribes, and some have fought against father, uncle or her own, distinct aqidah. Umar bin Al-Khattab killed his uncle, 'Ash bin Hisham disbelievers. Abu Bakr fought against his son, Abdurrahman who was not embraced Islam.
Another story between Mus'ab bin Umair and his brother, Abu Aziz bin Umair. "Strengthen the bond, his mother is a wealthy man. Who knew he was going to redeem his son with an offer that is expensive", pleaded Mus'ab told the Ansar charming Abu Aziz as a prisoner of war of Badr.
"Is this the way you treat your real brother? ' Abu Aziz asked, surprised. "You're not my brother. But those who hold you that's my brother, "replied Mus'ab (d 3 H) firmly.
Islam has knit kinship among its adherents without knowing the blood relationships, skin color, social status and borders. And it has been practiced perfectly by the first generation of Islam, the Companions of the Prophet '.
Ukhuwah and Solidarity
Ukhuwah taste (brotherhood) were born Islam made its followers have spawned the nature of high social solidarity in the life of the Muslim community and the human civilization. Qur'an perpetuate that reality.
"And they (the Ansar) priority (The Emigrants) on themselves. Even if they need (what they give it)" (Al-Hashr: 9).
A man came to the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam, wrote Ibn Kathir when interpreting the above verse earlier in the commentary. "O Messenger of Allah, I were suffering" said the man had complained-kan fate. The man was told to come to the house wives of the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam. However, he did not find relief because they do not have.
"Is there someone who would welcome him tonight? May Allah have mercy on him" said the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam to his companions.
"I am O Messenger of Allah" said Abu Talha, the Helpers agreed.
"This is a Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam, provide all banquet for him and should not be left" asked Abu Talha to his wife after she arrived home. "But we did not have any food except food for children," she replied sadly.
"If children ask for food invite sleep, then you come here and turn off the lights, and let us family hungry tonight". In the morning when Abu Talha met the Prophet, then he said: "God was amazed (or laughing) to him and his wife", said the Prophet `praise. (HR. Al-Bukhari)
Islam has pledged that Muslims are brothers. "Indeed the believers are brothers" (Al-Hujurat: 10). This verse has laid the foundation of faith as straps flavor ukhuwah. Differences in skin color, ethnicity, race and social status have been incorporated within the framework of Islamic faith. Islam prioritize person based taqwanya status.
Allah says: "Verily the noblest among you in the sight of God is the most pious among you" (Al-Hujuraat: 11).
Ukhuwah taste that grows on every soul of the believer is God's favor to remember (be grateful). Brotherhood in Islam has its own meaning. The mention ukhuwah -as a nikmat- precedence of the mention diselamat-it people who believe from hell (see QS. Al 'Imran: 103).
Ukhuwah sense would flourish if nature ananiyah (selfishness), and the love of the world buried deep. To eliminate ananiyah properties, Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam make love to a fellow Muslim faith as a form of perfection.
"No (perfect) faith a person until he wishes for his brother what he wants for himself." (HR. Al-Bukhari and Muslim).
And worldly values ​​that will become an obstacle to the growth of a sense of brotherhood would vanish if people look at and contemplate its origins, and realized that the ultimate glory in the sight of Allah be judged from the ketaqwaannya.
Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu alaihi wasalam said: "O people, your Lord one, and the father you are one, you are from Adam, and Adam from the ground. Verily its noblest among you in the sight of Allah is the most righteous. There is no virtue Arab nations on other nations, nor for other nations over the Arabs, there is no virtue for red on white skin and the whites on the red skin, but by virtue of piety. " (HR. Ahmad).
Ukhuwah sense tangible in the form of social solidarity. Social solidarity among Muslims there are two kinds of people; in the sense of moral and material. Solidarity within the meaning of the material consists of fulfilling the needs of the community, the feeling of participating in distress suffered by members of the community, willingness to help promote common interests in order to improve people's living standards, and service to all members of society in the things in their favor.
Meanwhile, in the moral sense of social solidarity embodied in the form of a willingness to engage one another to recognize and follow kebenar early and stay away from all kemungkaran -al amru bil ma'ruf wannahyu 'anil munkar.
True brotherhood is brotherhood fostered on the basis of faith. Sense of brotherhood that was built not on the basis of faith-whether it's personal interests or groups will only be lasting if the beneficial aspects that interest was there. Without the foundation of faith, brotherhood will only be a means to achieve just the interests of the world, no more than that.
Berukhuwah and Mutual Advising
Including five first person who converted to Islam was Abu Bakr (d 13 H). Abu Bakr was a close friend of the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam. Both have long been friends long before the Prophet appointed prophet and apostle. And through friendship, Abu Bakr clicking Islamize Uthman (d 40 H), Zubair bin Awwam (d 36 H), Abdurrahman bin Auf (d 34 H), Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqas (d 55 H) and Talha bin Ubaidillah (d 36 H). Here Abu Bakr use friendly relations to spread Islam to his friends with a well known personality.
Advise a friend (someone) who is well known, a greater likelihood of being accepted. The advice does not necessarily have to be accepted, sometimes even not at all acceptable. It takes time and repetition of advice to be accepted-if Allah wills. Al-Quran and al-Hadith was using the language of 'repetition' for a command (read: advice) specific.
God repeated the verse which means "the favors of your Lord will ye deny Which" seba-many 30 times in one letter (Ar-Rahman: 55). The text, of course dilatarbela-facing away from the things that are not the same. Ikhlas and mutaba'ah (follow the Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wasalam: knowledge) is an absolute requirement to advise. Advice is imad (pole) religion. (Muslim).
Keep muru'ah (honor) and self-esteem by giving appropriate advice what we do. Reflect before advising. People will sneer and deride the person who says what is not done. Allahpun very hate against people who are like that. (Ash-Shaff: 3). Mimic sun always illuminates the universe without having to destroy himself, it seems more sensible than to be a candle that illuminates a dark room but with a piece of burning yourself. Allaah knows best. (Asri Ibn Tsani).

Morals OF THE PAGAN

Morals OF THE PAGAN

Muslims must believe, that the view of the disbelievers are misguided. Because they do not use the correct instructions, in accordance with the teachings of Islam (Qur'an, Ali Imran: 85)
Among the morals of the infidels is as follows:
1. Hate against the infidels for God
Rasulullah SAW said:
"Love of the beloved of God and hate because God is including the faith." (HR. Bukhari)
2. Doing both at the fair and unbelievers. (QS. Al Mumtahanah: 8)
3. There should be love pagans
4. It may help people who suffer disbelieve
5. Do not insult infidels
In the hadith Qudsi Allah says:
"Who hurt the infidels (dzimmy), then I will be enemies on the Day of Resurrection." (HR. Muslim)
6. Women were forbidden to marry Muslim men disbelieve (Qur'an, Al-Mumtahanah: 10)
7. There should be saluted infidels
If pagans saluted, then answer simply by saying 'Wa'alaikum'
8. There should imitate him unbelievers
Rasulullah SAW said:
"Anyone who imitate the act of a people, then he has become his followers." (HR. Abu Dawud and Ahmad)
9. There should call the host to the Gentiles.
From Buraidah RA, he said that the Prophet SAW said, "do not call hypocrites with, 'Mr. glorious'. For when he became a master, then he became your leader, then you've got the Allah Azza wajalla hatred. "(HR. Ahmad)