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Saturday, 24 October 2015

Annihilate ARROGANT ATTITUDE Who devour the whole goodness

Annihilate ARROGANT ATTITUDE
Who devour the whole goodness

The Prophet SAW said: "Be careful you all to envy (envy), because actually envy it shall devour the whole goodness as firewood fires wiping out" (Abu Dawud)

In the Al-Falaq, Allah commands believers to seek refuge in Allah from the evil of the envious when he envy. Meaning al-envy or malice is expecting pleasure owned by others disappeared. As if just expect to have a similar pleasure without coupled with the hope that favors it disappeared from the hands of others, it is not al-envy, but ghibthah and munafasah (fair competition).
However, sometimes the word al-hasad interpreted also al-ghibthah. If so, it means that connote positive. Things like this regarded as commendable in two circumstances, namely, as has been described by the hadith of the Prophet Muhammad:
"There is no envy (which is allowed) [laa hasada] apart in only two things: someone who was given by God treasure, then he spend it on the right, and a man who was given by God of knowledge, and then he put it into practice with the consequent and teach (to others) "(Bukhari).

Envy is a bad trait to look out by every Muslim. The inappropriate nature of accompanying a Muslim unbelievers in Allah, the Prophet, and the final day.
One characteristic of a true Muslim is clean soul of nature deceptive and envy, and of violating promises and resentment. Hygiene human soul where fleshly which encourages a sincere worship of Allah, worship, prayer enforce, and bermunajat at night, fasting in the daytime. (Ahmad)

In one story, narrated that the Prophet had mentioned a friend Anshor as "one of the hosts of heaven".
Abdullah bin Amr who want to know the practice Ansor companions, asked for permission to stay in his home for three days. Abdullah did not find special practice, he did not even see him perform the night prayer, except that each man was berbalk in his sleep, he mentioned the name of God.
Finally Abdullah bin Amr asked why the man can achieve degrees as said the Prophet TSB. He replied: "I do nothing other than what you have noticed, but not stored at all in my heart the desire to cheat one of the Muslims or spiteful put him on the good that God has given to him." Then Abdullah berakata "Is this what has been raised so high derajatmu ?!"

It was narrated from Ibn Mas'ud that the Prophet SAW said:
"There are three things that the root of all sin. Take heed and beware of all three.
(1) Beware of vanity, because vanity has made the devil refused prostrate to Adam.
(2) Beware of greed, because greed has caused Adam to eat of the forbidden tree.
(3) And guard yourselves from envy, because envy has caused one of the children of Adam killed his brother (Reported by Ibn Asakir)

Muawiya said, "There is no crime yanglebih properties upright rather than malice. Envious man perish before those who didengkinya."
It is said that Moses saw human seornag near 'Throne. because Moses wants to occupy that position, he beranya, "What is charity?" That question was answered, "He never envious of the man by the grace of Allah to him."
Umar bin Abdul Aziz asserted, "I've never seen anyone more unjust same spiteful injustice. Because he is always in a state of misery and shortness of breath."

SPREAD THE GREETINGS

1.a. Dustur DIVINE (LIABILITIES SALAM):
oh Greetings to say to the believers:
"If those who believe in Our signs come to you, say: 'Peace-alaikum" (hopefully Allah bestow the prosperity upon you) ... "(Qur'an, Al An'am 6:54)
o If given the respect, get even with respect better:
"When you were honored with reverence something, then get even reverence it with the better of him, or retaliate respect it (with similar). Verily Allah always makes calculations over all things "(QS. An Nisaa '4:86)
[Respect in Islam is to say "Assalaamu'alaikum"]
1.b. VIRTUE GREETINGS
Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-Ash r.a. said: A man asked the Prophet. : What is best in Islam? The Prophet replied: Giving food and greetings to people you know or do not you know. "(HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
Abu Emirate (Al-Barra ') bin Azib r.a. said: The Messenger told us with seven kinds: Visiting = visit the sick, deliver the bodies, mendo'akan people sneeze when reading Alhamdulillah, help the weak, help the afflicted, spreading the greeting, keep (implement) the oath. (HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
Abu Hurairah r.a. said: Messenger of Allah. says: You will not go to heaven to believe (believe), and you will not believe until the love of neighbor. Sukakah me show you something if you do arise affection among you. Spread greeting among you. "(Muslim)
Aththufail bin Ubay ibn Ka'b used to come to the place of Abdullah ibn Umar, then go together to the market. So if we had been on the market no Abdullah through the rags, or sellers in stores, or the poor, even to meet with anyone unless he saluted. Aththufail said: Then one day I came to the house of Abdullah ibn Umar, and then he took me to the market. I asked: 'What did you market, you're not going to buy anything, do not need to ask the price of the goods, or bid, not even sit on the market, the better we are sitting here talking. Abdullah replied: Yes Aba Bathnin, we will go to the market only to greet the people who met (to the market to spread the greeting) "(Malik in the book Almuwatho ')
1.c. HOW TO GIVE GREETINGS
Sunnat for the greeting saying:
- Assalamu'alaikum, and the answer minimal Wa'alaikum say hello, if you want better answer warahmatullah Wa'alaikum greetings, and if you want a much better answer Wa'alaikum regards warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
- Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah, and the answer of at least mengu-capkan Wa'alaikum regards warahmatullah, if you want better answer warahmatullahi wabarakatuh Wa'alaikum greetings.
- Peace be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings
Imron bin Hushoin ra. said: A man came to the Prophet. and utter Assalamu'alaikum. Then answered by the Prophet. then he sat down. The Prophet said: Ten. Then another man came also the greeting: Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullah. And once answered by the Prophet. He sat. The Prophet also said: Twenty. Then a third person came and said: Assalamu warahmatullah wabarokatuh. Then answered by the Prophet. and he said: Thirty. (Abu Dawud, Attirmidzi)
1.d. RULES SALAM:
Abu Hurairah r.a. said: Messenger of Allah. said: People who berkenda-raan saluted running, and running saluted sitting. And entourage are a little greeting to the many. (Bukhari, Muslim)
In Bukhari: And a small salute great
Abu Umamah Albahily r.a. said: Messenger of Allah. He said: Seutama main-man for God is that precede greeting. (HR. Abu Dawud, Attirmidzi)
Abu Umamah ra. said: A man asked: O Messenger of Allah when two people meet face to face that which of the two should precede greetings? The Prophet replied: The closer to God. (Attirmidzi)
1.e. GREETINGS sunnat repeat IF REPEATED MET
Abu Hurairah. said: Messenger of Allah. He said: If you see one you should give greetings to his brother, then if separated between them by a tree or a wall or rock, then met again should salute. (Abu Dawud)
1.F. Sunnat GREETINGS SIGN IF HOUSE
The Word of God:
"If you go into the house, it should greet you, as the welfare of God's blessing and good"
Anas. said: Messenger of Allah. taught me: Son, if you get into the family home, should be saluted, in order to be a blessing for you and your family. (Attirmidzi)
1.G. UNCLEAN PRECEDE PAGAN PEOPLE WITH GREETINGS
Preceding Haram HEATHEN with Salam and How to Respond Salam They and sunnat Giving greetings on the Muslim Majlis Mix with Pagan
Abu Hurairah. said: Messenger of Allah. He said: Do not precede the Jews or Christians with regards ... "(Muslim)
Anas. said: Messenger of Allah. said: if the people of the Book greet you, then answer: Wa alaikum. (Bukhari, Muslim)
Osama ra. said: Messenger of Allah. walking through the menghim majlis-even the Muslims, pagans and Jews Mushrikeen. Then the Prophet. greeted them. (Bukhari, Muslim)
1.H. GREETINGS sunnat WILL LEAVE IF MAJLIS
Abu Hurairah. said: Messenger of Allah. He said: If until one of you to the council, should be saluted, and when getting up to leave majlis should say hello. Not the first was more feasible (better) than the latter. (Abu Dawud, Attirmidzi)
1.I. Shaking hands, faced SWEET
Sunnat Shaking Hands, Poker Hands Smelling Sweet and Salih People and Children, and the New People Downs Coming from traveling, and Makruh Degrading Yourself
'Al-Barra' ra. said: Messenger of Allah. He said: There is no two Muslims who meet and shake hands, but the sin is forgiven before parting. "(Abu Dawud)
Shofwan bin Assal ra. said: A Jew said to his friends: let's go to the Prophet. So they went both to the Prophet. and inquire about nine verses. And once answered by the Prophet. They then kiss the hands and feet of the Prophet, saying both: We bear witness that you are really the prophet. (Attirmidzi)
Ibn Umar. told me that eventually he said: So we came to the Prophet. and kissed his hand. (Abu Dawud)
A'ishah. said: Zaid bin Haritha came to the city of Medina was the Prophet was in my house, then Zaid knocked on the door, then the Prophet got up immediately greeted by dragging the cloth, then hugged and hugged. (Attirmidzi)
Abu Dhar ra. said: Messenger of Allah. said to me: Do not underestimate a kindness, even a face-to-face sweet friend. (Muslim)
Maraji '
Imam Nawawy: Riadhus Shalihin

CONTROL LUST

"Do not go near adultery, because sesun really about her dirty deeds and the way is not very good." (Qur'an, Al-Isra ': 32)
Sahl ibn Sa'd said: Messenger of Allah said: "Who guarantees me what is between the two beard and two legs then I assure him of heaven." (HR. Bukhari)
1.a. KEEPING PUBIC
Adab dressed in Islam:
1. Should the brothers hold the entire private parts and as well as sisters. "Say to those who believe men: let them bowed his sebahagian view and keep his cock; for he is clean for them. Verily Allah Mahameneliti to anything you do. (An-Nur: 30)
"O Children of Adam! We have sent down to clothing to cover your nakedness and beautiful clothes to jewelry. Piety and clothing that is the most good. Such are some of the signs of God's power, hopefully they will always remember. "(Qur'an, Al-Araf 7:26)
May not use the clothes and thin form that displays genitalia.
"Indeed, experts of hell, namely women dressed but naked, leaning to the immoral and attract others to commit adultery. They will not enter Paradise and will not smell it. "(Reported by Muslim)
2. No dressing with arrogant intent
Prophet. said: God does not see the pan-invitation mercy against those who degrade over ankle holster for pride. "(HR. Bukhari, Muslim)
3. Brotherhood does not resemble sisters and vice versa
Prophet. never count people are cursed in this world and welcomed also by the Angel of whom are men that are God made really a man, but he made himself as a woman and resemble women, and the second, is female was created by God as a female really, but then he made himself as male and resemble males (HR. Thabarani)
4. The Brotherhood did not use gold jewelry and silk
Umar bin Alkhotthob r.a. said: Messenger of Allah. He said: You do not wear silk. So who does it in the world, will not wear it in the Hereafter. (Bukhari, Muslim)
Anas r.a. said: Messenger of Allah. have allowed for Azzubair and Abdurrahman bin Auf wear silk because they both suffered from itching. (Bukhari, Muslim) The goal is to education in order to maintain the high moral heroism male nature of any form of weakness and to eradicate the nature of extravagance.
5. Do not dress like a specialist clothing worn by infidels like Jews, Christians and idolaters. This Ummah both men and women should have its own characteristics both in things visible and hidden.
"Whoever imitates a people, then he is from them." (History Thabrani)
1.b. KEEP YOUR VIEWS
Adab relationships in Islam:
1. Intercourse should be intended to increase devotion to God
"O mankind, indeed We have created you from male and female and made you nations and tribes so that you know each other. Verily the noblest among you in the sight of Allah is the most pious among you. Surely Allah is Knower, Aware. "(QS. Al Hujurat 49:13)
2. Should the brothers hold the majority view and likewise with the sisters. Let subjecting the view of what is forbidden by Allah SWT. Because views can arouse lust and stimulate the culprit to fall into sin and ma'shiat. Therefore, the Qur'an gives a stern warning against the views of the wild.
"Say to the people Mu'min:" Let their gaze, and maintains his cock; and so it is purer for them, surely Allah is Aware of what they do. "(QS. An Nur [24]: 30) the word of the Prophet:
"That view is one of the arrows of the devil"
Two eyes that adultery and zinanya eyes is to see "(HR. Bukhari)
One lightening Islam was he allowed to see the sudden nature of the portion that should not be.
"From Jarir bin Abdullah, he said: I asked the Messenger of Allah. about seeing the sudden. So the Prophet replied: Palingkanlah that your eyes! "(HR. Muslim)
"O Ali! Do not let the view that one follows the other views. You should only be at first sight, while the next one should not be. "(HR. Ahmad, Abu Daud and Tirmidhi)
Women see men not the nakedness, the legal permissible, as long as not followed by orgasm or not feared would cause a scandal.
Most scholars assume that extremists, that women should not be seen at all the male members either. They brought the argument of the hadith narrated by former slave Nabhan Umm Salamah, that the Messenger of Allah. once said to Umm Salama and Maimunah who was Ibn Umm Maktoum broke into her home. The Prophet said: wear the veil. Then the two wives of the Prophet said: "He (Ibn Umm Maktoum) is blind!" So the Prophet replied: "What if he is blind, you are blind? Are not you both see it? "
But among experts tahqiq (people who are experts in the investigation of a hadith / opinions) said: This Hadith is not valid according to the hadith experts, because Nabhan who narrated this hadith one that what he said is unacceptable.
If this tradition is destined valid, is a tough stance Prophet to his wives because of their glory, as he was being tough on the issue of hijab.
3. Brotherhood does not hold sisters and vice versa
Prophet. once said the following: "It's the head of one of you pierced with a needle of iron, better than he touched a woman who is not lawful for him." (History Thabarani, Baihaqi and narrator-rawinya thabarani is trust)
Just stay away from women / men who do not keep this civilized.
4. Brethren and sisters must maintain a distance; should be limited to where they do not smell the fragrance of the opposite sex
"Any woman who wears perfume then passes through a people that they smell it, then she is considered adultery; and every eye there zinanya. "(History Nasa'i, Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibbaan)
5. "being alone" either in Zahir and emotionally.
We recommend that if you want a fairly long meeting, brothers and sisters bring a friend Ikhwan also bring a friend akhwatnya. Friends here are intended to be warned if he was hanging over the edge.
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then she should never be alone with a woman who is not with mahram, because the three are saitan." (Reported by Ahmad)
6. All forms of association if arouse lust, then it is haram
1.c. Mahram
Men can only see the face and both hands of women who are there to rukhsah's viewpoint. This prohibition dikecuali-kan for 12 people:
1. Husband
2. Father, either paternal or maternal
3. The father-in-law
4. Child-son. As well as grandchildren, both of the boys or of girls
5. Children of her husband.
6. brother, either sibling, or the same mother sebapa
7. Nephew.
8. The good fellow female co-religionists in connection with nasab or others
9. Servant sahaya
10. Nephew of sister
11. People who come home that there is no sense bersyahwat
12. Young children are unlikely bersyahwat when looking female genitalia
Maraji '
Yusuf Qaradawi, Halal and Haram in Islam

CONTROL ALOE

Sahl ibn Sa'd said: Messenger of Allah said: "Who guarantees me what is between the two beard and two legs then I assure him of heaven." (HR. Bukhari)
Among the sayings there are bad and there is nothing worse, nothing is more vicious and vile, there is good and there is nothing better.
"Say to my servants: 'Let them say better. Indeed devil that caused friction between them. "(Al-Isra ': 53)
Among our primary obligation in the affairs of this tongue is used in proselytizing to goodness, commanding the good, forbidding the evil, reconciling disputes and called for goodness and piety.
"And let there among you a party that calls upon mankind to virtue, sent to the ma'ruf and prevent what is wrong; they are the lucky ones. "(Ali Imran: 104)
"There is no good in much of their secret talk, except for the promptings of the person who sent (men) gave shadqah, or what is right or make peace among men." (An-Nisa ': 114)
"O ye who believe! When ye hold secret talks, do not talk about sin and enmity and disobedience to the Apostle. And talk about making a virtue and piety. "(Al-Mujadilah: 9)
But the list of obligations and prohibitions tongue very much.
1.a. DANGER TONGUE AND VIRTUE DIAM
Tongue very big danger.
Sahl ibn Sa'd said: Messenger of Allah said: "Who guarantees me what is between the two beard and two legs then I assure him of heaven." (HR. Bukhari)
Prophet. asked about something that most incorporate people into heaven, and he said: "Taqwa to Allah and the moral good." And he was asked about something that most incorporate people into hell, then beluai said: "Two things are empty: mouth and genitals. "(HR. Tirmidhi)
Mu'adh bin Jabal said: "I said, O Messenger of Allah, whether we will be punished for what we say?" The Prophet. said: "How do you have, O Ibn Jabal, humans are not thrown into the fire of hell except as a result of their tongues." (HR. Tirmidhi)
Prophet. He said: "Indeed, most of the sins of the son of Adam is on her tongue." (HR. Thabrani, Ibn Abu Dunya, al-Bayhaqi)
From Safwan ibn Sulaym, he said: Messenger of Allah. He said: "Will I tell you about the worship of the easiest and lightest for the body? Silence and good manners. "(HR. Ibn Abu Dunya)
Prophet. He said: "Keep your tongue except for the good, because the real so you can defeat the devil." (HR. Thabrani, Ibn Hibbaan)
Indeed tongue Mu'min is behind his heart; if you want to talk about something he pondered with his heart and then his tongue fulfilled. While the tongue hypocrites are in front of him; if it wants something then he fulfilled with his tongue and his heart.
Umar. said, "Who are many windy a lot of mistakes, who many mistakes many sins, and whoever many sins, the fire of hell is more suitable for him."
Why silence has such great virtue? Then know that the reason is that many diseases of the tongue. Disease that is very easy and light sliding of the tongue, taste sweet in the heart and has a wide range of encouragement from tabi'at satan. In addition to that contained in the silent authority, concentration to think, dhikr and worship. Silence is also contained in the safety of the various responsibilities of the words in the world and reckoning in the Hereafter.
"No one's saying ucapanpun but there is a nearby angel supervisor is always present." (Qaf: 18)
The words are divided into four parts: words are entirely harmless, useful words entirely, words that contain the benefits and dangers, words are harmless and beneficial.
In the words of a dangerous fully then we must silence did not. Similarly, words that contain the dangers and benefits. The words that are not hazardous and not too useful then it is fudhul (the excess of that required); busied themselves with it would be a waste of time and a loss.
1.b. TONGUE DISEASES
The following diseases of the tongue and begins with the lightest later increased to more severe:
1.b.i. First disease: Talks are not Useful
If you talk about something you do not need and does not benefit you, it means you are wasting time. You will be judged for the actions of your tongue and means you have to replace better with lower. If you use the talk time to think it could be you will get an abundance of God's grace upon tafakkur so it is very beneficial. Should you praise God, calling Him and glorify Him undoubtedly it better. How much of the sentence with built palaces in heaven.
Even if the talks are useless without sin, but he has lost because fugitives benefit greatly from dhikrullah. The silence of the Mu'min should constitute tafakkur, his eyesight was taking lessons, and his words are dhikr. Even the capital is the servant of the time. When used for things that are not beneficial to him and not be used to accumulate reward in the hereafter then indeed he has wasted capital.
"Including the Islamic someone good sign is that he left something that is not useful to him." (HR, Ibn Majah, and Tirmidhi)
Limitation of words that are not useful to you is that you say something you do not talk that if you do not pronounce the guilty and not harm the state or property. For example, mention the story of your trip, ask other people about something that does not benefit you, because the question it means you are wasting your time and you have to force your friends to answer so he was brought to the vain.
Drug of all is knowing that he will be held accountable for every word, his tongue are nets that can be used to get an angel of heaven, wasting it is a real loss. That drug in terms of science. In terms of charity is the 'solitude or put pebbles in his mouth or require him to be silent not say anything that is not useful to him so that his tongue accustomed to abandon what is not useful to him.

1.b.ii. Second Disease: Excessive Talking
Covers talks useless and adds a useful talks thus exceeding purposes.
Ibrahim at-Taimi says, "If a believer wants to talk then he saw, when he spoke to his advantage but if harm then he refrained. The transgressors are people who terumbar tongue free. "
Most of the sage said, "When someone is in a majlis and eager to talk then let him be silent and when silence had always wanted to be quiet, let him talk."
Yazid ibn Abu Hubaib said, "Including a pious slander is that if he would rather talk than listen. If there are already enough people who speak the listening is safety while participating talk is the talk advantages and disadvantages. "

1.b.iii. Third disease: Involve Yourself in talks Batil
Namely talks on various disobedience. People who talk too much about things that are not useful will not be safe from engaging in evil.
"So do not sit with them, so they entered the conversation to another." (An-Nisa ': 140)
"Surely someone is speaking with one sentence that made his friends laugh, but his speech is plunged farther from the star Trusaya." (HR. Ibn Abu Dunya)
Ibn Sirin said, "A Anshar through a majlis them and he said to them, 'Berwudhu'lah because most of you speak worse than hadats'."

1.b.iv. Fourth disease: arguments and debates
"Do not argue with your brother, do not be playing with her, and do not make an appointment with him then you do not keep." (HR. Tirmidhi)
"Who left arguments when she was then built him a house in heaven at the top. Who left the strife while he was wrong then built him a house at the edge of heaven. "(HR. Tirmidhi)
"It is not a people astray after God show them except that they do debate" (HR. Tirmidhi)
Arguments are any rebuttal to the speech of others to reveal imbalances in it. Leaving discord is to abandon denial and refutation. Every conversation you hear otherwise related to religious affairs [also do not cause damage] then let you silence.
The motivation that drives this disease is a sense of superiority to reveal the science and excellence accompanied by attacks on others by revealing shortcomings. Both of these are inner lust for life.



1.b.v. Fifth disease: Arguments
He was heavier than arguments and debates. Arguments is the notion of matters relating to win the opinion or thought without associated purpose other than to harass others, and promotes excellence and intelligence. While contention is insisting in talks to acquire property or right as planned.
"The most hated God is the loudest in contention." (HR. Bukhari)
If you say, when people have the right and then to get it or keep it he must fight for wronged, then how the law and how the quarrel reproach, and you shall know that these reproaches addressed to people who fight in a way that vanity and without science.
This reproach is also addressed to people who demand their rights but do not limit yourself as appropriate.
A kind word is the opposite of the argument, arguments, debates which incidentally is a hated word, can hurt, it can muddy the life, and evoke anger and make a hot chest.
"The thing that will put you into heaven (among others) is a kind word and feed." (HR. Thabrani)
"And just say a kind word to man." (Al-Baqarah: 83)
"Fear you will hellfire even with adjoining palm seeds; If you do not have it with a kind word. "(HR. Bukhari and Muslim)

1.b.vi. Sixth disease: Said Keji, slob and scolding
"Stay away from infamy, because God does not like make-up abomination and wickedness." (HR. Nasa'i, al-Hakim and Ibn Majah)
"The Mu'min was not a person who likes to hurt, not people who like to curse, not a person who likes to say vile nor those who love to say dirty." (HR. Tirmidhi)
"Say dirty and vulgar are two branches of the branches nifaq." (HR. Tirmidhi, al-Hakim)
What is meant by the words of vulgar (al-bayan) here is revealing something that should not be disclosed. Or blunt deliver what humans feel embarrassed express it vulgar.



"Truly vile abominations and said to each other instead of Islam at all, and indeed most people either become Muslim is the nicest guy akhlaqnya." (HR. Ahmad and Ibn Abu Dunya)
Is to reveal the nature of said vile things worse with vulgar expressions. Most of it is related to sexual problems and matters related thereto. People who have broken expressions of vulgar and vile used to express it, whereas righteous people avoid it and use figurative languages. Ibn Abbas said, "Allah is Exalted shy anymore; mema'afkan and figurative language - using the word 'touch' to reveal jima. So, touch, enter and mingle is an allusion to jima ', and the words were not vile. The use of figurative language is also used to relieve himself for wasting water.
There vile expressions that are not worth mentioning and is usually used to revile.
Say nasty things that drive them wanting to hurt or habits as a result of association with the wicked and despicable people who among them is the habit of berating.
An Arab Bedouin said to the Messenger of Allah, "Wasiatilah me." The Prophet. He said: "You must be devoted to God; if someone reproach you with something he knows there is in you then do not reply to reproach him with something in him, undoubtedly his back to him and reward for you, and do not denounce anything. "Bedouin Arabs said," After that I never reproach at all. "(HR. Ahmad and Thabrani)
"Abusing the Mu'min is wickedness while killing him is disbelief." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
"Two people who berate each other what they say, then it is over (dependents) the person who started from the second to those who persecuted the transgressors." (HR. Muslim)
"Among the great sin is someone berate the parents .." The Companions asked, "O Messenger of Allah, how someone berate his parents?" The Prophet. He said: "He chided the father of someone and that person chided his father." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)

1.b.vii. Seventh Disease: The Song and Poetry
As for the lyrics, the words that is both good and bad words are bad. But concentrate on poetry is reprehensible.
Reading poetry is not unlawful if it does not contain words that are hated.

1.b.viii. The eight diseases: jest
Origin reprehensible and forbidden unless a lower rate.
Prohibited was joking excessive or continuous, because joking continuously means busy with games and things futile. Excessive joke would cause a lot of laughs when lots of laughs it could be lethal liver and dropping authority. Joke which is free of these things are beyond reproach.
Narrated from the Prophet that he said, "I am joking but I did not say anything but the truth."
People like the Prophet. can frolic without lying, whereas in others if the person has opened the door jest then the goal is to make people laugh at will. Though the Prophet. He said:
"Surely someone is speaking with one word that made his friends laugh, but with these words he fell into hell fire tsuraiya farther from the star."
In addition, many laughs as well be a sign of negligence of the hereafter. Prophet. He said:
"If only you knew what I know you undoubtedly will be many tears and a little laugh." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
Laughter despicable is laughing while laughing commendable bahakn was smiling until you see his teeth but without the sound of loud. So smile Prophet. (This convey the same hadith contained in Muslim history)

1.b.ix. Diseases Ninth: ridicule and scorn
It is forbidden, because it can hurt.
"O ye who believe! Let not a people ridicule other people (because) maybe they (who mocked) better than them (which mocks)." (Al-Hujurat: 11)
Meaning of ridicule is humiliation, harassment and mentions various flaws to disgrace or ridicule.
Abdullah bin Zam'ah that he heard the Prophet preaching and advising them of their laughter to people who fart. Prophet. He said: "Why is one among you laugh at what he had done." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)





1.b.x. Tenth disease: False Promise
Tongue very easy to make promises, while the soul is sometimes not possible to keep them so that promise teringkari.
"O ye who believe, stick to the promises (of you)." (Al-Ma'ida: 1)
Ibn Mas'ud never make promises except to say 'inshallah'. It's more mainstream. Then, if it is understood as a sure promise that must be kept unless prevented. If at the time of the promise was determined not keep then it is nifaq.
"Four things who were to him then he is a hypocrite and who is one of these properties available to him then to him there is one trait nifaq to abandonment: When talking to lie, when promised deny, when making a deal treason, and if the fight cheating. "(HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
1.b.xi. Eleventh disease: Lying in Word and Oath
"Verily, falsehood leads to lawlessness, while lawlessness dragged to hell, and surely someone lied to is written on the side of God as a liar." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
Prophet. He said:
"I (dream) look as if someone came to me and said" get up ", and then I got up with him, then suddenly I met two men; one stand while others sit. In the hands of people who were standing there a hook of iron and stuff to people who Dudul chin and pulled it up to his shoulder, and then he pulled it and stuff to the other side and then extending it; if he is to grow it then the other side back to normal. Then I asked the guy who woke me, 'What is this?' He said, 'This is a liar who was tortured in his grave until the Day of Resurrection.' "(HR. Bukhari)
Prophet. said in a lean state: "Will I tell you about the great sins of the greatest, ie associating partners with God and disobedience to parents." Then the Prophet. sat down and said: "Know and tell a lie." (HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
"Indeed, one lying once so that the angel away from him as far as a mile trip because of rotten what they did that." (HR. Tirmidhi)


Lie Tolerated
Maimun ibn Mahran said, "Lying in most cases better than honesty. How do you think if someone was chasing others with swords to kill the people who chased it into the house, then those who pursue it asks you "Do you see the Fulan? '. What would you say? Do not you answer, 'Do not you know?' You would not be honest with him, but you must do this falsehood.
The talks are a means to an end. Each laudable goal that can be achieved with the honesty and falsehood do lie in this case is unlawful. If it can be achieved with a lie but can not be achieved with honesty then lie in this case is permissible, if the achievement of it was permissible or obligatory if the achievement of the goal itself must be done.
Of Umm Kulthum, he said: I heard the Messenger of Allah. provide relief to lie unless involves three things: A person who uttered the words for peaceful purposes, a person who uttered the words in a war and someone who talks to his wife or wives who spoke to her husband. "(HR. Muslim)
 All three of the above is an exception (to lie) mentioned explicitly, whereas other things can be equated with it if it relates to the correct destination.

1.b.xii. Keduabelar disease: backbiting (backbiting)
"And do not some of you backbiting others. Sukakah one among you eat the flesh of his brother dead? "(Al-Hujurat: 12)
. "Every Muslim is forbidden to other Muslim blood, property and honor." (HR. Muslim)
"Do not envy one another, do not you guys hate each other, you do not compete with each other, and do not you make each plot. Do some of you backbiting others, and be ye servants of God are brothers. "(HR. Bukhari and Muslim)
The Companions ra. meet with joy and not gossip if mutually parted. They regard it as the most important deeds, while the reverse is a tradition of the people hypocrites.
"Woe to every slanderer more detractors." (Al-Humazah: 1)
Ibn Abbas said, "When you want to call your brother then remember disgrace disgrace yourself."




Meaning backbiting and Limitations
Backbiting is calling your brother with things he did not like had he heard it, whether you mention the shortcomings that exist in the body (called the short, black and all things that describe the nature of the body did not like), nasab (say abject), morality (mengataka bad akhlaqnya , arrogant, cowardly, etc.), actions, speech, religion, or his world, even in clothing, home and vehicle.
Prophet. He said: "Did you know what it is backbiting?" Friend replied, "Allah and His Messenger know better." The Prophet. He said: "You call your brother with things he did not like." Asked, "What if what I say it is present in my brother?" The Prophet. replied: "If what you say it in him then indeed you have menggunjingnya and if nothing on him then indeed you have mentioned that lie about him." (HR. Muslim)
Backbiting is not only limited to the Tongue
Gesture, nod, picingan, whisper, writing, movement and all the things that give an understanding of what is meant, then he goes into backbiting and forbidden.
Examples include walking imitating limping. This is even more severe than backbiting backbiting tongue, because he was stronger in the portrayal and giving an impression.
Other forms of backbiting is listening to backbiting to admire, because by showing the real admiration he has encouraged the spirit of the person doing backbiting. Even those who remained silent when he heard the same backbiting with the person doing backbiting.
People who hear ghibah not free from sin except by denying verbally or with his heart when fear. If unable to do so or to cut what he said with another waffle but he did not do it then he is guilty.
"Anyone who defends the honor of his brother who was gossiped about, God will free him from the Fire." (HR. Ahmad and Thabrani)
Pushing things ghibah
In general, the driving backbiting summarized in the following causes:
First, venting anger.
Second, adjusting to his friends, making small talk to friends and supporting their talk. If they "partied" to mention the disgrace, he felt that their behavior was resisted surely they objected to and away from him. Therefore he then support them and consider it a good interaction and pleasantries in friendship.
Thirdly, want to precede vilify the state of those who feared ihwalnya looked ugly in the respected person.
Fourthly, the desire bercuci hands of actions attributed (mentioned) to himself.
Fifth, wanted to boast. That raised himself by putting others down. For example, said, "The So and so stupid." Veiled intent of these words is to reinforce excellence himself and show that he knows better than the person.
Sixth, malice.
Seventh, playing, amusement, and fill empty time with jokes.
Eighth, harass and humiliate others in order to humiliate it. The cause is vanity and little regard those who denigrated it.

Drugs that can prevent tongue from backbiting
(a) Knowing that backbiting can bring the wrath of God
(b) Knowing that backbiting can undo the good-kindness in the Day of Judgment
(c) Knowing that backbiting can move goodness kindness to those who digunjingnya, instead of the honor that has been dinodainya; if it does not have the good that can be transferred then the evils of people who digunjingnya will be transferred to him.
(d) If a servant believes undoubtedly various texts about backbiting backbiting tongue will not do for fear of it.
(e) It would be useful also if he is contemplating about himself. If you get a disability so he was busy taking care of her disability and feel embarrassed for not denouncing him and criticizing others.
(f) It would be useful to him if he knows that others feel pain because of backbiting is doing as he felt sick when others menggunjingnya.
While the treatment in detail, is to consider the reasons that encourage doing backbiting, because the disease is to cut the drug causes.

Illicit backbiting with Hearts
Prejudice is unlawful as a bad word also unclean.
The trajectories mind then it dima'afkan, even liver also dima'afkan doubt, but which is prohibited is prejudice.
"O ye who believe, avoid most of suspicion, actually some prejudice is a sin." (Al-Hujurat: 12)
 You may not believe evil of others unless you have seen the real that can not be interpreted by other things.

Giving some reasons Rukhshah in backbiting
1) Tell on kezhaliman.
2) Being a means to transform and restore kemungkaran adulterous people to the right path
3) Ask for fatwa
4) Warn the Muslims of evils
5) If the person mentioned already known by the nickname that reveals about his disability.
6) If the persons mentioned do wickedness openly

1.b.xiii. Thirteenth disease: Involve Yourself In Ignorant on Some Questions Complicate Knowledge and
Lay people feel pleasure involved in knowledge, because satan foster the delusion that he was included among scholars and people who have virtue. Satan continues to pose imaginary until he speaks of knowledge that led to disbelief while he was not aware of it. Everyone who was asked about the complicated knowledge while understanding has not reached that level then it is reprehensible. Indeed, he had in relation to the fairly common knowledge.

Maraji '
Sa'id bin Muhammad Daib Hawwa, Purifying the Soul: The concept of Integrated nafs Tazkiyatun

Preserving the Spirit Gathering

If there is disharmony or an argument in the relationship between human beings, it must be something to appease venture back bond of brotherhood with the relationship. rasulullah s.a.w. said: "No one's perfect faith if a fight of more than three days and three nights". Even Muhammad specifically emphasize: "Not perfect faith of a husband and a wife's faith that fight until dimalamkan".
How to keep the fabric of brotherhood and intimacy can be more stable and sustainable, then the Messenger of Allah provide guidance in at least two images of the brotherhood in Islam.
First, brotherhood in Islam should be one body. If one limb is ill, then the others must participate in pain. In essence, the fraternity must be characterized by a spirit of solidarity; bitterness felt by others participated felt by his brother.
Second, the brotherhood in Islam should be like a building. Prophet: Between one building element with other elements need each other and protect each other. Essence covered ta'awun attitude; mutual help. Tarahum; love each other; Tadhamun; mutual responsibility. As dsabdakan Muhammad: "Help others God will help you, lighten the burden of others God will lighten your burden, dear people of God love you, forgive others God will forgive you".
To preserve this attitude, some hints can be found in the Qur'an, among others in the Al-Hujarat verses 6-12 are:
O ye who believe! If there is the wicked come to bring the news, make sure kebenaranya, so as not to harm people because of the unknown, a nd then you will meyesali what you have done. And know that among you there Rosulullah; if in the development of many things he had to follow you, you would certainly have to be preformance trouble. But God made you love faith and menjadikanya beautiful in your hearts; and he makes you hate kufr, wickedness and rebellion. They are the ones who follow the right path; A grace and favor of God; and God is omniscient, Mahabijakasana. And if there are two classes of believers fight, dmaikanlah them; but if one of them applies dhalim against the other, then fight the prevailing group dhalim it, until they get back to the command of Allah; When they're back, dmaikanlah both with fair, equitable and act, and act fairly; Allah loves those who act justly. True believers brothers; then the second rukunkanlah brother (dispute), and fear Allah, that ye may obtain mercy. O ye who believe! Let there exist a class mock another group; may be the one (who harassed) better than others (which ridicule): Also do some women laugh at other women: It may be that one (who harassed) better than others (which ridicule): do not sling denounced and gave the name of ridicule. Really nasty bad name it after you have believed. Those who do not repent, those that are dhalim. Ornag O ye Believers! Stay away from prejudices as much as possible; because some prejudice is a sin. And do not spy on each other, not mutually backbiting. Are there any of you who like to eat the flesh of his brother dead? No, you're right to feel disgusted. Fear Allah. God always accepts repentance, dn compassionate. (Al-Hujarat: 6-12).
Seven recipes verses of the Qur'an in the Al-Hujarat are:
First, budayakan tabayun. Tabayun is to check the truth of the news until ketelinga, especially hearing bad news about friends, relatives and so on. The attitude of a Muslim is, do not always believe before checking the truth of the news. The Qur'an says lest you hate someone because the victim information. Not to condemn a person because of wrong information. Rosulullah s.a.w. said: "Enough for a person to say a big braggart if told him all that was heard before checking the truth of the news".
In the teachings of Islam that is true only of the Qur'an. Interpretations can be wrong even there is also a weak hadith, as well as with scholars qaul be wrong.
Second, the culture of reconciliation. Ishlah is to straighten the crooked, which does not reconcile peace, to reconcile who do not get along, including rectifying incorrect information. In Islamic societies need an institution for reconciliation or at least there is one person who dipercya all parties to reconciliation. Examples in existing international institutions (OIC) is an institution for reconciliation that one of its tasks is to reconcile between Islamic countries that fight. Beautiful if dlam tabayun civilized life and familiarized reconciliation. Prophet Muhammad SAW. said: "Islam came into oddities and someday Islam will emerge as a doctrine that is strange and alien, blessed are those who are strangers".
Strange people are the ones who do the reconciliation of all things destroyed by mankind. Therefore reconciliation is one of propaganda. Muhammad Abduh gerkan his message called for reconciliation; tidk want to straighten the straight and clear up wrong.
Third, avoid taskhirriyah, belittle or memperolo-olakn others.
Fourth, do not insult others, insult other people, among others, by changing the name of another person with titles that are not good and can be painful for disturbing familiarity and fraternity. In a hadith mentioned that included insulting another person if the call with the name of his father.
Fifth, distanced su-udhon attitudes or prejudice. One of the diseases that lead to mental and physical illness can cause adalh setress prejudice.
Sixth, do not like to look for the faults of others; keslahan look for yourself. Do not self-preoccupied by an inventory ere others, but it's better if inventory ere yourself.
Seventh, do not like gossip or backbiting others. According to the Qur'an, Manusa who like backbiting was a sadistic man.
Tattle can be done in everyday life with the congregation, because the most delicious gossip done with a congregation. He wants to be successful not by achievement but by destroying others, namely by way of gossip. Warned by the Prophet that the greatest sin wag wag adlah own husband or wife alone. Even dikatakn dlam a hadith that are forbidden to go to heaven for someone who likes open disgrace of a husband or wife.
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In addition to the seven recipes above, the Prophet Muhammad gave six prescription order daily life in order to remain sustainable. Prove familiarity brotherhood among fellow Muslims by the way;
First, if other people say hello, then it must be answered with less greetings. greeting is sunna, but respond slaam is mandatory; fardhu kifayah, except slam when prayer does not need to be answered. There is a provision slam should not be spoken to non-Muslims.
Second, if other people invite, meet invitation. In particular religion advocated two family events involve others; walimatul marriage and walimatul aqiqah. Marriage in Islam should not be Sirri or by stealth, but it should be published. In the teachings of Islam if a baby is born, then on the seventh day to be circumcised; shave, announcing his name and aqiqah; ie slaughter a goat for a baby girl and two goats to a baby boy.
Third, If others ask for advice, give advice or suggestions as needed. Do not let people who are experiencing difficulties and shed kesulitnya then aggravated. Until the prophet said that there were ugly friend told his dream to give a good interpretation that tidk despair and become pessimistic. Give others expectations and a sense of optimism in the running life. This needs to be done by parents to their children.
Fourth, if the other people sneeze and say "thank God", then in charge "yarhamukallah".
Fifth, if other people pray and visit the sick. When visiting the sick recommended to not burden the family who are sick, whether material or moral. Even better help meringankanya.
Sixth, if another person dies, then, Send to kekuburanya. If there are people who died, even though the person is not wrong, then say lillahi wa inna inna illaihi raji'un. But if the person died of non-Muslim, do not say lillahi wa inna inna illaihi raji'un. If there are people who carry the bodies and passed encouraged to stand, despite the non-Muslim died. If you see a corpse is recommended to close the mouth and eyes, then his hand should be kept in his chest. Furthermore washed, shrouded and buried. If the corpse will be buried, do not have any items brought except shroud. Even makampun not be made luxury, and even then only be walled edges only. Likewise with the coffin, if the bodies under normal circumstances it is better not to use a crate. When using the crate, the crate should be in the ground.
If the above instructions implemented in everyday life, God willing, life among Muslim Sesma will incarnate a harmonious life.

BEAUTIFUL withstand ANGRY

"Who restrain anger, and he can satisfy it (take it), then later on the Day of Resurrection, Allah will call him in front of all the creatures. Then, choose an angel summoned at will." (HR. Abu Dawud - At-Tirmidhi)

Someone firmness levels in the face of life's difficulties are diverse. Some are able to deal with such a difficult issue with a feeling of calm. However, there are also people who are facing problems with small ditanggapinya so heavy. It all depends on the strength ma'nawiyah (keimananan) person.

Basically, human nature diverse: loud and quiet, fast and slow, clean and dirty, closely associated with firmness and patience when interacting with others. People who have a firmness of faith will menyelurusi hallways hearts of others by forgiving response, quiet, and roomy chest.


Sometimes, we may feel so angry with someone who insulted us. Our anger so heightened as our souls thrown out of consciousness. We are so felt unable to accept the insult. Except, with anger or even by way of spilling blood. Na'udzubillah.

According to history, there is a Badwi came to the Prophet with the intention to ask for something on him. He gave him, then said, "I'm doing you a favor." Badwi said, "your gift is not good." The friend was offended, then surrounded him with anger. However, the Prophet beckoned them to be patient.
Later, the Prophet S.A.W. back home. The Prophet came back with additional items to be given to Badwi. The Prophet said on Badwi it, "I'm doing you a favor?" Badwi said, "Yes, may Allah repay Tuan, family and relatives."
The next day, the Prophet S.A.W. said to friends, "Well, if at the time Badwi said that rough as you heard, then you are not patient and killed him. Then, he would go to hell. However, since I coached well, he survived."

A few days after that, the Badwi want instructed to carry out the important task that heavy though. He also participated in the jihad arena and perform their duties with a devout and pleasure.

Prophet S.A.W. giving an example to us of tolerant. He did not panic face roughness of a Badwi that it is so character. If it was then, carried penalties against the Badwi, of course it is not kezhaliman. However, the Prophet S.A.W. not doing so. He remained patient with her and give a friendly attitude and gentle. At that moment, he S.A.W. wanted to show us that patience and gracefully higher value than any material possessions. Treasure, then, like the garbage that piled used to treat camel mad. Of course, camels who have earned their needs will be easily tamed and can be used for a long journey.

Sometimes, the Prophet S.A.W. also angry. However, anger is not beyond the bounds of glory. It was he did not because of personal problems. Rather, because the honor of the religion of Allah.
Prophet S.A.W. said, "cursing Muslims are evil (sin), and the combat is kufr (from Islam)." (HR. Bukhari)

Similarly his saying, "It is not a believer who censorious, curser, the words nasty and dirty." (HR. Turmudzi).

A person who is able to control appetite when the angry rebel, and capable of restraint in times gets ribbing. So, people like these that are expected to generate goodness and virtue for themselves and society.

A judge who can not suppress his anger, will not be able to decide the case fairly. Dan, a leader who easily ignited lust anger, will not be able to provide a way out for the people. Instead, he will always bring out hostility in society. So did the couple who do not have peace of mind. He will not be able to sail the ark pace of life. Because, each not able to close his eyes on the small errors partner.

For those whose faith has grown with the proliferation in the chest. So, grow also the properties of the soul magnitude. Similarly fertile sense of awareness and generosity. Patience also grew in the face something of a problem. Not easy to scold someone guilty for granted, even though they were entitled.

For that person, will be able to master himself, to keep his temper, to curb his tongue from an inappropriate conversation. Mandatory for him, train yourself by ridding himself of liver diseases. Such as, ujub and arrogant, riya, sum'ah, lies, sheep and other claimants. And accompany it with the deeds of worship and obedience to God, in order to enhance a high degree of Allah SWT

Abdullah bin Samit, Messenger S.A.W. said, "Did not I tell better about something which God exalts buildings and elevating somebody?" The friend replied, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." Messenger of Allah said, "charitable dadalah you against people who fool you. You love forgiveness to those who have wronged you. You like to give to people who never give anything to you. And you are going bersilaturahim to people who have severed ties with you . " (HR. Thabrani).

His saying anyway, "Behold, a servant when condemned to something, take the curse to the sky. Then, lockable door that ceiling him. Then, come down the curse to the earth, then locked well as the doors of the earth for him. Then, berkeliaranlah it right and left. Then, if it does not get a new place, he went to the cursed. When worthy cursed (meaning if it is true he is entitled to curse), but if not feasible, then returned to the person who cursed (back to address the curser). " (HR. Abu Dawud).

ETHICS IN ARGUE

Bismillah walhamdulillah walaa Hawla walaa Quwwata Illaa billah, Sahabahs Islam Gentlemen, we thank Allah that to this day Allah is still playing for time for us. Talking about the verdict, in fact every one of us has been sentenced to death (S.21: 35), only execution schedule that is different, some weeks ago, yesterday, this morning, and I? You? Sometime, a clear time left, we must maximize to do good. Among the goodness that is: build a good synergy between the two lovers were tied tightly sacred promise, husband to wife.

A fight is a phenomenon that is difficult to avoid in the household life, if someone says: "I have never quarreled with my wife!" Chances two, maybe he's not a wife, or he is lying. Obviously I Umm Naila often enjoy sa'at-sa'at fight, as much to enjoy again sa'at sa'at not quarrel

The quarrel is actually a state of discussion, only delivered in a high degree of emotional charge. If you know the ethical, in bertengkarpun we can drink wisdom, how not, precisely in contention, any words were spoken containing cargo feeling very deep, sticking with pressure of high energy, the message the message was strong, more easily digested than lip service without emotion , Well, today I would like to describe our family recipes in a squabble continuous right, thank God I have lived for 13 years, and managed to build a state that is always more fun than before quarrel. This paper is purely non-political, so please do not hurry hurry Union Ranti remove

When me and the thief [my heart] - uh baseball koq he did not steal my heart, I even bartered ed with a sincere heart sincere-
Initial meeting, after I asked whether he was willing to share the future with me, and the answer is exactly as expected, we started talking about what the atmosphere of the household to the next. One of them is about what to do when we fight, from a few conversations via posts plus the time to maturity, we arrived on a Memorandum of Understanding, that if it had to fight it:

1. If a fight should not be in congregation
Just quite a grumpy, late sending high-pitched signal that one must wait until subsides. For business abstinence angry congregation, one is enough to make the house so festive. When he was angry, and I want to interrupt, he immediately said "STOP" it's my turn!
I had to keep quiet while forgiveness. Holding back a smile I said to myself: "You are more beautiful when angry, the more energetic ..." And with silence and even then I felt pious charity, has become a way for signals to pass through emotion in the hearts of loved ... "duh lover .. talk continues, if with the heart be relieved, then wilderness feel relief that I'm waiting .... "

Similarly, if fitted taxable my turn "that sport face muscles", I assume that the distortion of the heart, pus from the soul the offense is rubbish, it should be immediately disposed of so as not to spread germs, and I did not dare get mad at anyone who except my wife , so now it was her turn to be willing to be trash. special essence to be angry, it does not have to congregation, because there is something better to do it in congregation besides angry.

2. Get angry for that matter, do not leverage that has been folded past.
 Anyone that leveraged his past mistakes, definitely cornered, because the past is a part of history himself that he could not change. Whoever would not like judged by his past. Because hope unfolds from today to the future. In any fight we need to keep hope, not destroy it. Because contention among those who still have hope, just a foreplay, being quarrel two hearts pa tah desperation, destroyed the civilization of love which has been so costly to build. (to this day, the cost of marriage I still have to keep my installment, dear delete it if in just ...

If I get home late and he was angry, the anger over the delay was as hard as any criticism, is "an expression of longing that hard". But if it is linked with the rest of my delay, last week, the beginning of last month and two months ago, then it makes me slumped fall. When tea disajinya not sweet (I include sugar hoarders), any sepedas me angry, then it is "a higher expectation want to be loved". But if it is connected with the mistake yesterday and three-day passes, plus charges of "It's not like anymore yes to me", then I have pinned to the day that is gone, I buried him in the past, oops I had killed him, killed his love.
However, if the death of his love, I too hard ... OK, angry but for the error during the, I do not live in the last week, and he belongs today .....

3. If Angered do not carry the family!
 I was with my wife bound past 13 years, but my mother and my father almost two-fold longer than that, so he and his brother and uncle. And the concept of the Quran, one that does not bear the guilt of another party (S.53: 38-40). Terpantik I will not be angry if only I were scolded, but when my mother was invited as well, do not try. Likewise him, since I married her, I have learned to ignore anyone in this world than he is, so why should carry others kekancah "early this summer of love". My father said: 'Friends thousand still lacking, the enemy one too many ". Scold people who love me, more easily searchable ma'afnya of the cranky at heart and who does not know me .. "
The world is already on the verge of battle, do not plus added by hostile in-laws!

4. If you do not get angry in front of the kids!
 Our children are the fruit of love, not the fruit of anger and hatred. He was not born through our contention, therefore, why they should watch the wild comedy of our homes. Children who see their parents fight, confusion should side with whom. Defending father, how her mother. Defending the mother, but my father itukan ... when the boy heard his parents arguing:

Mother: "I have this cape, I clean the house, I cook, and you come play told so, I emang this babu? !!!"
Father: "I also cape, work all day, you ask for this and that and I had to look more to it, I came nobody should honor, I emang horse ???? !!!!

Children: "...... Yaaa ... my mother's maid, my father kept my horse .... What now?"

We must dare to say: "Stop bickering!" when the kids come, see their eyes, in binarannya there longing and togetherness. At laugh no trace of our cooperation romantic, should he hear the word stale our hearts ???

5. If you do not get angry over a time of prayer!
At each tahiyyat we say: "Assalaa-mu 'alaynaa wa' alaa 'ibaadil- ahis holiihiin" Ya Allah, peace be upon us, as well as on your servants who are pious .... Well if after greeting us pout again, after greeting us our wives face with anger. Then we have been lying to him, but your life in his hands ...... Ok, angry as much at dusk, but after maghrib should prove to know that the promise of the divine ..... Get angry discharged dawn, but do not overdue midday, or limited Maghrib Isha ... Or run out isya limited to .... ??? Nnnng .. Ah I think we agree that depleted isya should indeed not fight .....

6. If we love each other, we should be mutually mema'afkan
{wisdom that I can later, when read in the newspapers resensinya Demi Moore movie [title I forget ....]} But clearly it is, as long as there is love, a fight is just "learning to love more intense" Apparently there are still loyal with us even though we maki maki. This alone, may bermanfa'at, "With the creed greeting that means we declare ourselves to be willing to be limited"